Someone seems to have pressed the fast forward button on my life. I can’t believe how quickly the time goes now. How can Tom be three? How can Piper be 3 months? Surely it was only yesterday I was bringing them each home from the hospital.
Day to day, it feels like we achieve very, very little. We are often still in pyjamas past 10 am. Unless John is home or I have to drop Tom at nursery, we rarely make it further than the garden. And yet the days fly by. Though having said that, some individual hours can last for years. I seem to spend my whole time cooking, cleaning, changing nappies, and putting someone down for a nap! An average day now looks something like this:
6.00 – my alarm goes off and I immediately press cancel before it wakes Piper or John.
6.05 – alarm two goes off. I quietly wake Piper if she’s not already awake and take her to the living room for a feed.
6.20 – Piper is done nursing and Tom is up. I change her nappy, pop her on her fleece to play, and get him breakfast. Whilst he eats and she plays, I get my own breakfast and a cup of coffee.
6.45 – breakfast is over and Tom “plays” with Piper which requires very close supervision. I distract him by brushing his teeth and bribing him to go to the potty.
7.10 – Piper is getting tired but I’m trying to extend this awake time, so I get down on the floor with her to try to keep her happy a little longer.
7.20 – time to settle Piper for her nap. Tom gives her a kiss and I take her to our room whilst he amuses himself in his bedroom.
7.30 – Piper is asleep. Tom and I play in his room or the living room.
8.00 – leaving Tom to play, I go to load up the washing machine for the day’s first wash and start to clear the breakfast things.
8.15 – washing up done, I look over my to do list and start knocking off any admin tasks. Piper wakes up and I go to give her the dummy so she will go back to sleep. This will need repeating roughly every 20 minutes until she gets up. One of these waking typically wakes John and he’ll get up to get breakfast and a cup of coffee.
8.45 – Tom is bored of amusing himself. We play a game, do a puzzle, or sit him down for some colouring.
9.00 – I jump in the shower whilst John looks after the kids.
9.20 – time to get Piper up for her next feed. I wake her if she’s not already awake. John goes for a bath.
9.35 – Piper is done. I take her nappy off and lay her on the floor on her change mat for some nappy free play. John and I take it in turns to distract Tom from “playing” with her.
9.50 – first wash is done. I unload the machine into our washing bag ready to be hung out later.
10.00 – The kids play. I keep an eye on them whilst tidying the living room, putting away dry nappies, or checking my emails.
10.15 – Piper is beginning to get a little fussy so I get down to play with her. We sing songs, do baby massage, or work on her grasping skills. Tom usually joins in.
10.30 – I put Piper’s nappy on and take her to settle for her nap.
10.40 – Piper is asleep. I take the washing outside to hang. Tom comes with me so he can play in the garden. John keeps an ear on Piper, though I can hear her from the garden too. On the rare days there is no washing to hang, I might get Tom dressed and head to the park with him for an hour or so, leaving John to look after Piper.
11.20 – Piper is awake. One of us goes to give her the dummy so she can sleep more. We get Tom dressed if this hasn’t happened earlier.
11.40 – I start to prepare lunch whilst Tom and John play.
12.10 – lunchtime. John, Tom and I sit down together to eat.
12.30 – lunch is over. John does the washing up.
12.40 – time for Piper’s next feed. John reads Tom stories and puts him down for his nap whilst I feed her. Sometimes John gives her a bottle instead and I put Tom down.
13.00 – Piper is done and Tom is in bed. John and I have a quiet moment to drink our coffees whilst Piper plays on her fleece. If she had a bottle I pump to replace the feed.
13.45 – John starts getting ready for work and I change Piper’s nappy.
13.50 – I say goodbye to John and take Piper for her nap.
14.00 – for a brief moment, both children are in bed at the same time. I read a book, write a blog post, or spend some time browsing baby forums.
14.30 – Tom is up from his nap. We play games, tidy his room, or tell each other stories. Piper wakes around 14.40 and I resettle her with the dummy.
15.30 – I get Piper up for her next feed. If she didn’t have a bottle earlier she has one now.
15.45 – Piper is done and goes down on her fleece to play. If I’ve given her the bottle I do a quick pump session to replace the feed.
16.15 – I put a nappy wash on, then play with the kids.
16.40 – I take Piper for her nap whilst Tom plays in his room.
16.50 – Piper is asleep. I make dinner for Tom and I and we sit down to eat.
17.30 – dinner is over. I run Tom a bath and he plays with his bath toys.
17.45 – Tom gets out of the bath and puts on pyjamas. I put a cartoon on the computer for him to watch.
18.00 – I get Piper up for her next feed.
18.15 – Piper is done. I put her on her change mat for some nappy off play and do the washing up.
18.30 – I run Piper a bath and turn off the cartoon. Tom helps me bathe her. I get her into her sleepsuit ready for the night.
18.45 – all three of us snuggle in Tom’s bed to read stories. Piper is often a bit fussy so I bounce her on my knee or give her a dummy while I read to Tom.
19.00 – I tuck Tom in and say goodnight, then take Piper to our room for a top up feed. She often drops off to sleep during it, but will usually wake up as I burp her.
19.15 – feed over, Piper and I cuddle for at least 10 minutes before I put her down. Sometimes she fusses a little, others she falls asleep before I put her in her cot. I aim to put her down heavy lidded but still awake, so she can fall asleep on her own in her cot.
19.30 – Piper is asleep. I sort out the bathroom, tidy the living room and hang the nappies to dry.
20.00 – me time! I make a snack and sit down to watch some TV or read a book.
21.00 – time for my evening pump session. I watch TV whilst I pump.
21.30 – milk goes into the fridge. I wash and sterilise the pump and the day’s bottle, and do any last washing up, then wipe down the kitchen.
21.45 – bedtime for me. I sneak in quietly to avoid waking Piper.
00.45 – Piper wakes for a feed.
1.15 – Piper back down. John usually is home by now and sneaks into bed.
4.00 – Piper is up for another small feed.
4.15 – Piper back down
5.15 – Piper is awake again and wanting to start the day. I give her the dummy and she falls back into a light doze, but wakes every 10 mins or so when the dummy falls out.
6.00 – my alarm goes off and we start all over again!